Toronto wedding photographer Sophia Banks on coming out as a transgender woman.
I have given a lot of thought as to the best way to approach this and in truth I am not sure this is the best way.
I have always tried to keep my personal life largely separate from my business. However I have come to realize that as a wedding photographer I am ultimately my business and who I am defines how I see and how I see is my business.
Who I am is going to change in a fundamental way.
A large part of my business comes from the kind and gracious referrals of past clients. This is absolutely wonderful and flattering but it does however pose some logistical problems for what is currently going on in my life.
There is no funny joke or easy way to segway into this. I am coming out as a trans woman. Like most transgender people my story is not terribly joyful but this is not the platform for that story. What I am saying here is that I am coming out as as a trans woman and that I plan to begin living my life as a woman over the next year.
Being trans is not a choice, I was born this way.
Coming out in the public forum was not an easy choice to make but after a long conversation with my father I was reminded of the importance of doing the right thing even if it makes things harder for me. I am raising my voice and my presence in solidarity with the trans community.
I am coming out as a trans woman because I am tired of living with the fear, shame and anxiety that comes along with living in hiding, with the effort it takes to live two separate lives that can never intersect. Because I believe in the power of numbers and that the acceptance of trans individuals will only come through visibility. Because I can no longer stand comfortably on the sidelines while my peers courageously fight for are collective rights. Most importantly it is because my conscience tells me that gender variant youths need as much inspiration and as many role models as possible.
I will be changing my name from Daryl Banks to Sophia Banks. I will still continue to run my wedding photography business.